It has been said that love makes the world go ’round. It has also been said that money is the root of all evil. But, when it comes to sex, “use it or lose it” seems to sum it up.
In this society, so many of us are caught up in the pursuit of all three – Love, Money and Sex - but not necessarily in that order.
A common statement is that men think about sex every seven seconds. A major sex survey actually found that 54% of men think about sex every day or several times a day, 43% a few times a week, and 4 % actually think about sex less than once a month.
Have you heard the saying, ”Sex sells”? Our society has been sold on sex. Some women are striving to appear as beautiful as the hottest models in magazines and as sexy and thin as the superstars of TV and movies… Here’s a tip. It happened with Plastic Surgery and it is a huge business.
An even larger business venture is internet pornography sites. Men are becoming so hooked on these photographic images and photoshop touchups that they are losing interest in the real women and real relationships in their personal lives… Men are DOGS.
Another common statement: “Women have sex to get love and men show love in order to get sex” … Did you see that one coming?
Many women have sex for all sorts of reasons that have very little to do with love. Women often have sex to obtain money, either directly (prostitution) or indirectly ( free dinners, free trips, freedom of working). And some women are quite aggressive sexually so that men do not have the same need to pursue them to obtain sex… Wait, back this train up. What went wrong?
Some men pursue women that appeal to them for more than outward sexual attractiveness. Every man’s interests and desires are different, unless they are thinking about sex. Some men value a woman’s intellect. Others are touched by her softness and sensitivity. And supposedly there are men who love an aggressive and outspoken woman… However, he must be a mama’s boy.
The sexual desire and sexual thoughts result from the woman’s personal qualities in addition to her outward appearance. Obviously, there are many men who pursue women just for sex, but for many men that lasts for a brief period of time before they actually fall in love.
Money also sells. Many of us are seeking money in the hopes of attaining a better life and fulfilling all of our dreams. As they say, “Money can’t buy love”, but it certainly can pay for the first date.
Love seems to get the short end of the stick. Many of us say we want to love and be loved, with one unspoken stipulation. “As long as the other person remains sexy, offers us understanding, compassion, excitement, wisdom, support, financial security, and whatever else we think is important in our life – and never does anything to hurt us (cheating, addictive behaviors, business failure and loss of expected income, or emotional instability),” then we can love this person indefinitely.
Loving and being loved is not a fairytale. It is day to day, moment to moment, self-expression, sharing and communication. Not every partner communicates in the style and the words or as often as we might desire. Not every partner shares their innermost thoughts or their current activities. Not every partner knows how to love and be loved.
Do you know how to love and be loved? Have you ever even thought about a book on how to love and remain sexually active. Can you truly say you know how to love and be loved? Have you ever taken the time to learn about the obstacles and blocks you are personally creating to avoid intimacy? Love makes the world go ’round, but if you’re not careful, it will just keep going ’round and ’round, until you want to get off.”
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